tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993191972631096512.post6708833654175711023..comments2023-03-25T15:26:06.887-06:00Comments on Everyday Miracles: Of Life and ParentingShannonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06679863159397261231noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993191972631096512.post-62069260786675223682009-09-19T17:55:49.920-06:002009-09-19T17:55:49.920-06:00Um, I was perfect at 18, you should have just aske...Um, I was perfect at 18, you should have just asked me. I guess I just screwed up that perfect self over time. Marcus is perfect at 11, just ask him, can't wait to see what time does to him!kyleandbethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16006176056315513265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993191972631096512.post-3153433924658574942009-09-18T23:12:11.886-06:002009-09-18T23:12:11.886-06:00Loved this entry!! Cameron made a comment in one ...Loved this entry!! Cameron made a comment in one of his letters after he left on his mission that said he always wondered why we hadn't pushed him harder to learn things. Thinking I had, this came as a total surprise to me that I hadn't taught him everything he needed to know. But then he went on to say that we had taught him the basics and he realized that we had let him use his agency and it was up to him to learn whatever we hadn't taught him. Still not sure what it was that we didn't teach him, but glad that he realized that he needed to be able to learn things for himself. You are such a great example for me, I love reading your ponderings. Love yaShumway Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03986348263368601253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993191972631096512.post-86143625464023513682009-09-18T21:52:59.211-06:002009-09-18T21:52:59.211-06:00I didn't laugh at our comments about thinking ...I didn't laugh at our comments about thinking you would be perfect. I was totally sure I would be perfect at 27. :-) <br /><br />And about teaching your children everything they need to know . . . I have worried about that with each of my children, but in the end I had to accept that I could not teach them everything and somethings they would have to learn on their own. So far they have all done well. Enjoy your next couple years. :-)Joy For Your Journeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15377226137595067767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993191972631096512.post-6694447212633819732009-09-18T21:37:37.803-06:002009-09-18T21:37:37.803-06:00Jenny-
I don't know. That's the hard par...Jenny-<br /><br />I don't know. That's the hard part for me. I know we started the kids doing their own laundry at age 8 and that worked ok for a couple of years. Then we had all those moves where it didn't happen and we're just now getting back to it. They started cooking their own breakfasts sort of early because thy didn't want to wait for me to get out of the shower. Erica was 7-ish, but Joseph was only 5 when he learned to fry an egg. Ryan still won't, but he's somewhat afraid of the fire on the gas stove. I can understand that. He's getting more brave (or is that braver?).<br /><br />Some things are just a maturity issue- like voluntarily going the extra mile on their own. Sometimes they do and sometimes they don't. I like to think I'm flexible and supportive at all those teaching moments, but I'm not. Somehow people learn all this stuff, anyway!<br /><br />Then there's things like checking accounts, etc. I didn't get one until college, but we set one up for Erica last summer. I'm still trying to figure that one out. What "bills" should she have now? How much do we push her to keep it balanced or do we let her deal with a bounced check, etc. Hopefully I've done that before Ryan gets to be her age.<br /><br />I think every child is different and every parent has a different skill set as well. So, there's probably going to be gaps somewhere, they'll just be different for every child and every family and I just have to come to grips with that.Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06679863159397261231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-993191972631096512.post-827197698523399932009-09-18T21:17:51.220-06:002009-09-18T21:17:51.220-06:00Steve really likes the 16 thing. Even if they can&...Steve really likes the 16 thing. Even if they can't make all those decisions you're setting the expectation that they will and you're there to help them if they can't. I haven't ever thought of that. Thanks for being my older sister that I never had! I love reading all your experiences to prepare me for what's coming. I really can't believe Erica is almost 16!<br /><br />Those are really good thoughts. If I break up the goals of what I should make sure my kids know, what should my age landmarks be? 8? 12? 16? or more?luvmymunchkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10387084250827754454noreply@blogger.com